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Emily Hess's avatar

I once started explaining an aspect of NFP to a friend. He stopped me and said with a slightly superior attitude, "I know all this stuff I'm a [ER] doctor". I didn't have the heart to tell him that being a doctor in relation to this stuff usually doesn't really mean much.

(He and his wife later misunderstood something about how NFP works post partum ("She never had her period!" "Uh, well, um...she doesn't have to to be fertile, man...") and had surprise twins. My husband thought the situation was hilarious).

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Elise Boratenski's avatar

Excellent article. Even from a young age, before I was taught about fertility awareness methods, I had the vague feeling that something was off about the idea of regularly taking medicine that stopped my body from doing the thing it was supposed to be doing, that it was healthy for my body to be doing. I remember too the skepticism I was met with when I refused the offer of the pill for cramps etc., or insisted that I didn’t need the pill (or anything else) for contraceptive purposes because I was purposefully choosing not to be sexually active. It hurt a bit to be honest that the decisions I was making, healthy and good decisions, were seen as backwards, problematic, or temporary beliefs I’d grow out of. Thank goodness though for support from others I knew and several different fertility awareness classes. I couldn’t believe how much about my own body had been withheld from me in a world that claims to be “sex positive” or focused on “bodily autonomy.” It was also incredible to see how much my fiancé (and later husband) gained a greater respect/awe for me as a woman when he learned about how my body worked and how different it was from his own embodied experience. And despite it not always being rainbows and sunshine, practicing fertility awareness has been an ultimate blessing and good for us as a couple. Thanks for writing and calling out the WP article, it made my blood boil when I read it.

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